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Bulling has been around for quite a long time. With computers, phones and all the social media sites, bullying has gone to a new level. It needs to stop! It won't stop bully-655660_960_720unless parents,teachers, and everyone else that has contact with children learn how to spot bullying and correct it. Physical, verbal, and social media bulling makes kids anxious, depressed and sometimes suicidal. It doesn't have to be this way. It is preventable, so let's work together!

Bulling in Early Childhood

Children ages 1-5 is the time when kids have their first opportunity to interact with kids their own age. They may be aggressive and will act out when they don't get their own way. They are not being a bully. This is normal behavior for the 1-5 crowd. Just because it is normal doesn't mean it's an OK thing to do. There are things that you can do to help your kids get along with others.

  • Set rules for behavior and be aware of what they are doing. Try and stop the aggressive behavior before it starts, or stop it as soon as you can.
  • Teach them to say "I'm sorry" and have them correct the situation. For example: I work with 18 month old kids. They like to take toys away from each other. I have them say sorry (if they can) and have them give the other child their toy back.
  • There are consequences to their actions in a way they can understand.
  • Encourage children to let a adult know if they, or a friend is hurt from another child.
  • Teach positive ways for them to make friends. Help them to learn how to join others and take turns in games.

Signs that your Child is being Bullied

  • Refuses to go to school.
  • Doesn't want to talk about school.
  • Won't go to after school activities.bullying-1019271_960_720
  • Hungry after school (more that usual). Could be someone is stealing lunch or lunch money.
  • Doesn't want to go tho the lunch room.
  • Has headaches, stomach aches from worry
  • Grades, homework decline.
  • Wants to be left alone, is angry
  • Uses bad language when it is not like the child.
  • Unexplained bruises or injuries.
  • Anxious or seems to be depressed

A few signs that your child may be the bully

  • Only includes certain kids in his activities.
  • Wants to be popular, or needs to stay popular.
  • Teases other children.
  • Likes aggressive video games.bully-624747_960_720
  • Hurts animals.
  • Lots of gossiping about other kids

Take a look at your own behavior. Do you gossip about other people? How about excluding others? Do your children see you do these things? Believe me ,they are watching and listening! Do your children do the same things you do?

Cyber Bulling

This type of bulling can be worse than being bullied in person. Cyber bulling is done on social media and often the bully can remain anonymous. It's easier for the bully this way. They fell like they can post anything they want without any consequences. A few examples of Cyber bulling are:bullying-679274_960_720

  1. Mean Text messages
  2. Rumors about someone that are not true posted on social media sites and can be forwarded to anyone.
  3. Embarrassing photos and videos posted.
  4. People can make fake profiles and say anything they want about someone without anyone knowing who they are.

It is harder to stop cyber bulling than the "old fashioned" way. They can post anonymously and it can get to people in an instant. It can also be done at all hours, not just during school hours. It's also hard to get  the inappropriate images and messages deleted. When things are posted on the internet it will most likely be there for a very long time.

The kids who are cyber-bullied sometimes: don't want to go to school, uses drugs or alcohol, have been bullied in person, poor grades, physical aches. They will probably have low self esteem because they will believe what the bully's are saying about them.

A lot of the time kids who are bullied in person will have the same thing done to them online as well. It will double the odds the the victims will start showing aggressive behavior. Bully will create bully's.

Prevent Cyber Bulling

Be aware what your kids are doing online!

Establish rules about technology use. Be clear about what sites they can visit and what they can do online. Show them how to be safe online.

Make sure your kids know that once they post something it can be forwarded to the world! Who do they want the information and pictures that they post online to see? Strangers will see it, and friends of friends will also. Ask them to think about people who are not their friends could use the photos or information.

Tell them to keep their passwords safe and not to share them. Sharing passwords will take away any control that they have.

Know the sites your kids visit. Ask questions! Get a sense of what they are doing. Let them know that you may review their online activities. Ask for their passwords. Let them know you will only use it if there is a need to.bully-1061363_960_720

Ask your friends to follow or be their friends on social media sites. I have my friends on some of my daughters sites, and I am friends with some of my friends kids as well.

Talk about what to do if they are being bullied, or they think that a friend is. Tell them that there will be no questions asked. Better to be safe!

I am sure that we all have heard the horror story's about kids committing suicide because of bully's. School shootings have happened because of the shooter was bullied. If this is happening to you please get all the help that you can for your child. Schools say that they have zero tolerance for bulling. Be sure that they stand up for the victims. Be persistent!

If you have any comments that you would like to add, or anything that I have not talked about, please leave a comment!

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Technology has come a long way since I was young! Cell phones, computers, smart boards, video games, and just about anything you can think of, we did not have. We played with our friends outside and at each others homes. Too many kids are inside on their devices instead of playing outside and communicating in person.

Don't get me wrong, I think technology is wonderful! It has helped in so many different ways to improve peoples lives. However, it doesn't mean that a six year old needs to sit with a ipad for hours.education-908512_640

There is a fine line between children using technology to learn ( and yes have fun) and parents using it as a babysitter.

Kids need to learn how to use computers and other technology as they will be expected to know how at a early age. It will be their future, so teaching it when they are young will help them in school and beyond. ...continue reading Children and Technology – Pros and Cons

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Child Proofing your home is an important step to take after your baby is born. Children are crawling between 6-10 months and walking between 9-18 months. characters-696951__180Every child is different, so there is not an ideal time for your child to reach these milestones.

There are a lot of products out there to child proof your home, but the best thing still is and always be supervision. Please don't get a false sense of security if you think that your home is perfectly baby proofed. Kids have a way of getting into or out of everything! Supervision is still the best way to protect your children! ...continue reading Child Proofing Your Home

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Night Terrors - " Feeling of great fear experienced on suddenly waking in the night" The dictionary says it all. My daughter had night terrors when she was about 3 years old. I felt like there was nothing that I could do for her and it was scary!

Night terrors are scary for parents. From what I have read and talking with my stamp-114438__180child's doctor that they are usually not a sign of something else that is medically wrong. They may require treatment if your child is not getting enough sleep, or if it is posing a safety risk. Please see your child's doctor if you are concerned. ...continue reading Night Terrors!

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Children (and adults too!) love music! It can either soothe the soul,bring back a great (or bad) memory,or get you excited about something!

Kids think with their movements before they can vocalize what they are thinking about. Children younger than one love to move to music. It makes them happy and music-306008_640they feel it.  On the other hand when a two year old gets mad about something and  they don't have the words, you see them fall to the floor in a temper tantrum.

Music can set a mood. We play soft soothing music at nap time. It makes me sleepy too! Loud, fun songs can get their body moving and dancing with each other. ...continue reading Music and Movement – For Young Children

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You may be noticing that your child doesn't understand when people look and sound annoyed or upset. They could be responding the wrong way when talking with adults or other children. I see this at times with the children I work with.

Children should have developed certain social skills by ages:

  • 2 - 3  Able to seek attention and initiate social contact with people, saying hi and bye and holding eye contact with you.
  • 3 -4  Take turns when playing games, pretend play with dolls and stuffed animals, start conversations with you and their friends.
  • 4 -5  Big on tattling, more intense pretend play lie pretending to be mom, dad, siblings.

newborn-659685_640Babies learning social skills? Of Course! Talk to them when they make noises at you. Respond to them. Eye contact when talking. Give them love! Giving love and attention is a basic need for babies. Be calm - even if you are tired and frustrated. They will do best in a calm environment. ...continue reading Helping Kids with Social Skills

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Kindergarten is a big step for children, and their parents too! Let's make it a smooth kindergarten-206883_640transition for them! I remember going to my daughters school for the first time and thinking, Wow this is a huge school, and she is so little! Think about how the kids feel! It is very different from the time that they spend in daycare. Your child will be leaving a childcare facility that they may have been since they were babies. Here are a few tips to make the transition easier. ...continue reading Kindergarten in the Fall? – Make it a Smooth Transition!

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Are you a stressed out Child care teacher?  When early child care teachers feel burnt out and stressed they may choose to stop working with kids  altogether. This woman-564301_640is part of the reason there is high teacher turnover and centers lose the qualified teachers, which has a effect on the care that children are receiving. It is a stressful job, there are long hours, physical demands, and situations that are unpredictable. ...continue reading Stress and the Child Care Teacher

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When you are a new parent there are so many choices to make. If you are going to use a child care center that means even more choices!  Cloth diapers have changed so much from when I was little! There are some differences and new products.diaper-501333_640

The best of both worlds would be the cloth diapers that has flush able liners. Company's now have a system in which you use the soft covering and have a flush able liner. You don't have the problem of washing the cloth diaper from poo! It will go directly into the toilet where it belongs! ...continue reading Cloth Diapers vs Disposable